MAKING UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY.

I never realized how the body systems work together as a team until I could not bend down or sit down on the chair .

It was one faithful morning on May 22nd 2020.I remembered it as if it was yesterday. After I have recovered from all the symptoms of COVID19 that I had.I walked from my bedroom upstairs to downstairs. As I arrived at the kitchen area,I wanted to sit down but my back will not let me.All efforts for me to sit down was abortive. What is going on I asked myself?. I walked from upstairs to downstairs. If you know that you wouldn’t let me sit down why did you allow me to to walk downstairs?.I was talking to nobody but my back.There was no response. So I started to cry,I cried like a baby. Finally my daughter heard me crying so she came downstairs and asked me why I was crying. I told her. And she looked at me but couldn’t believe it.

She commended me to sit down but I couldn’t. She trying to force me to sit down, she could not force me. I stood there like a manikin with tears on her face.I requested for motrin. She gave me 600mg of motrin, I took it still standing. Fifteen to twenty minutes later, she helped me to sit down on a high stool. After forty minutes later I was able to transfer to a lower chair. But that is the beginning of my long journey.

As I looked down, I noticed that my right is two and half times my left leg. My body are not working together as a team. So moving around became a serious problem because my back and my right are on my way.I know that every part of my body has to be in agreement for me to function efficiently. I could not wash myself up .I could not wear my underwear simply because my lower back and my right leg will not let me.It took months and several doctors visits, Emergency room physician, primary care physician, Rheumatologist, Orthopaedic doctors.I finally got relieved when a bucket of yellow fluid was drained from my right knee and steroid therapy given. One week later I was able to use my legs.

So I was grounded for six months without serious movement and the ability to perform ADL (which is activity of daily living)Body parts have to be healthy for us to have a normal life. Can you imagine if you have a bad partner it will be difficult to be happy. So you got to find a solution to make unhealthy relationship healthy. Fixation of my right knee allow me to be whole again. I can move around, do my dishes,take shower,and walk around in my backyard. If relationship is unhealthy, it is not good just like my right knee was misbehaving so I fixed it for it to be in agreement with the other part of my body. But should I remove it and get a new leg?.That will be too expensive and highly inconvenient. Some divorce can be highly expensive and inconvenient.

What will the next package look like?.What about the kids?.Who takes the kids?.How do we split the wealth. What can I tolerate in this marriage?.He or she want too much sex?. Well I can live with that.She doesn’t make the bed.I can live with that.Rather than divorce and let her take away all my wealth. Let us hire house keepers to keep the house clean. Sometimes some marriages can be worse than hell fire so divorce becomes the best option because the bible say that if your hand hand can cause you stumble cut it off and throw it away from you.Mattew 5:30.

Published by edochie99

A Registered Nurse with over twenty years of hospital experience, an author with Masters Degree in Nursing,also Bachelor Degree in Nursing,graduated in 1996 from USC,University of Southern California.MSN in 2009 University of Phoenix.

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