What is domestic violence?.
It can be defined as a pattern of behavior in a relationship that is used to gain power,
maintain and control of a partner or spouse.
There are eight characteristics of abusive relationship.
The main objective is POWER and CONTROL.
1.Forces and threatened her to do what I said or else.Insulted and pushed her out of her own car.Putting her down,making her life a living hell.Preventing family members to be close to her.Not allowing her to keep a job and taking away from her.Prevent her to have account in her name.Gives her allowances. Make her to request or ask for money whenever she wants to buy something .Who does that?.
2.Uses economic power against her.She makes the money he spends it and deprived her access to what belongs to her.Abusive partners are poor providers.
3.Using the children: He used their children to relay messages to her.Violent partners will often abuse their victims in front of their children.
4. Making a excuse for his actions, denying and depriving the individual and turns around to blame their victim. He will do everything to put you down.For example he gave her a small beating. What is small about hitting your wife?.
5.Isolation of their partners.Do you want to go and see your friends he asked?.
Well you are not going anywhere since you can’t drive.He does not allow friends and families to come over.Oh your brother wants to visit us?.Just tell him that we are traveling and will be out of town for two weeks. These are all made up excuses to prevent her brother or family members from visiting.
6.The Man of the House.He uses the male privileges against you.Wants you to cook and clean when you’re sick or has surgical intervention. Dishonest and a liar.He uses aggressive behavior within the house to abuse his partner.
7.Emotionally Abusive: He is Emotionally insulting and puts you down.Sex is for him and not for both of you. To pleasure him.He claims of dry vagina when he did not romance his partner. Ejaculate earlier than expected. When his partner complains ,his response is shut up you should be grateful to me.Really for what?.Staining in between my legs and gown with semen?.
8.He uses intimidation all the time to control and relegate his partner to the background. Physical, psychological and social intimidation is not good in any relationship as it affects the children and the victim.