DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS EVERYWHERE,BUT ON THE RISE IN NIGERIA. STAND UP AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?. “That cry that you will cry,cry it now when the Saints are here.After they are gone, there will be no recovery”.( sister Osinachi Nwachukwu) The Nigeria culture is indifferent about the interpretation of domestic violence towards partners(spouse). They tend to normalize it.Example he gave her a small beating. What is small about hitting your wife?. It is ok,just stay with your partner that is all that matters. “Divorce is not an option”. Says one pastor in Nigeria.There is nothing normal in an abusive behavior.Is it normal until he gives you a final blow to the chest?.What trauma are the children of the abused go through?.It is constant trauma to these children?. Even the Pastors, Reverend Fathers,who are suppose to protect the victims will look the other side. But when victims are permanently silenced,they preach about the death,and demand for donations for holding mass over the death. Most men that abuse and beat their wives are mentally sick. This sickness is manifested in their behavior, disturbance in cognition or emotions. They are deviants,dysfunctional, abnormal,obnoxious and can be potentially dangerous to live with. In some Nigeria culture,it will be deviant for a woman to leave her marriage. So they hang in there until they meet their untimely death. Is social workers effective in the areas of domestic violence?. What about families and police officers?. What laws are in place against domestic violence?. Why do women meet untimely deaths in Nigeria?. The man quickly remarry as soon as she is done.The police,social services, the churches and voluntary organizations should work together to tackle and deal with domestic violence towards partners in our society. Children are growing up with their grandparents. During the early adulthood, developing a meaningful relationship ,graduate from college and get employed( career)are very important for young adults. This is the period that you think about getting married one day and have family and children.So what changed?. What is domestic violence?. There is no justification for domestic violence towards partners. They often blame it on stress and upheavals,lack of resources. All these are false information and unfounded. Be your own advocate.

What is domestic violence?. It can be defined as a pattern of behavior in a relationship that is used to gain power, maintain and control of a partner or spouse. There are eight characteristics of abusive relationship. The main objective is POWER and CONTROL. 1.Forces and threatened her to do what I said or else.Insulted …